Wife has super high NEEDS, I’m about average. Leads to her being unhappy with our life.
I’m 21M, she’s 21F. When I say this woman has a high drive, I mean she’s literally told me that ideally we’d exercise 3 times a day every day.
Personally I’m a 4-6 times a week kinda guy at best. I try to give her what she wants to make her happy and satisfied but 3 times a day every day is unrealistic to me.
We’ve talked about it and she’s said that she “needs to feel craved and desired by me”, and doesn’t feel satisfied because she doesn’t feel that way.
Personally I can’t comprehend needing that much need or expecting that much in order to feel satisfied or feel desired.
It’s like every second we’re together is just doing this and nothing else, so I’m not sure how she can say she doesn’t feel desired.
While I can’t understand it she is the woman I love and I want to give her everything she wants. How do we fix this?
I wanna emphasize too that this woman comes every single time we have exercise, I don’t just leave her high and dry so that’s not the problem.
Not looking to hear the whole “you got married too young” spiel. Both of us waited until marriage as well so the typical “you shouldn’t have gotten married so young so you could both experiment and know what you want/get it out of your system” advice isn’t applicable to us.
Netizens’ comments
- See if there are ways you can meet her needs without doing something that is physically impossible for you.
- Three times a day is on the high side of things for most people, but not all people. There is no ‘normal’. My partner and I are both this way and have both struggled with previous partners who weren’t.
- I’m in the same boat bro except I’m the M with the super high drive. I want multiple times a day where my GF wants 3-5 times a week. It’s true that it leaves us feeling a bit undesired. I agree with the other commenter that initiating even a couple times a week goes a long way.
- Tell her to wait for you so you can initiate and show your desire. Otherwise it’s all her pushing towards you never giving you the opportunity to go after her…