Last night my wife attacked me. No argument lead up to it.
She asked for the phone charger and I asked what percentage she was on then she slapped me, tried to jump on top of me (I was laying down on the bed).
Then she scratched me, tried to elbow me, and when I tried to grab her hand so she would stop hitting me she tried to bite a chunk out of my forearm. It’s like I was fighting an animal.
If you looked at her you would never believe this happened. She is a small, petite woman.
I made a emergency meeting with our therapist (we’ve been seeing one ever since I got out of the army) and she admitted to everything. I could tell my therapist didn’t really believe me until she just admitted to it.
I’m confused and staying with my mom right now. I was happily married once and I’m just feeling lost right now.
- It’s good that you are safe, and seeing a therapist, though this one isn’t the right one for you.
You know you have to divorce her, for your safety and your mental healths sake. Once she is out of your life you can start to heal.
But be aware, she’s not going to make it easy to get her out of your life. She will do everything in her power to lure you back. Domestic violence is an addiction and you are her drug. She will lie. She will charm. She will love bomb you. She will threaten. At times you will wonder if your memory is right. At times you will think you see truth in her eyes when she says she’ll never do it again and she sees the error of her ways. She will be the best girlfriend you could ever want… for just long enough she is sure that you’ve given up on leaving. And then she’ll be back to beating you.
Which is why you can’t give her the opportunity to talk it out. Tell her you are done and nothing will change your mind and after that have her talk to your lawyer.
- Get out. Violence escalates- someone that loves you wants neverending kisses and cuddles and she aint it
- It’s tempting to speculate why but the only thing that matters is you being okay. If you aren’t safe at home, keep away. You don’t deserve to be attacked, you aren’t supposed to put up with it because she’s a woman or small. You should be safe at home. Protect yourself. Take care xx