My soon to be ex wife wants me to lie about the reason we’re getting divorced (her infidelity) and has begun insinuating the reason she cheated was because I did.
hello everyone. I’m 38m. I was married to my soon to be ex wife (39f) for 15 years, until I found out she was cheating on me. We’re in the middle of divorce proceedings.
I don’t talk about why our marriage ended to many people out of respect for our kids, however a few close friends and family have asked and I have told them.
One of my best friends is married to one of my ex wife’s close friends. He was one of the people I confided what really happened to, and apparently this has affected his wife’s friendship with my exwife, according to my exwife she has become distant and doesn’t want to hang out anymore.
My ex wife has now asked me to lie about the reason why we got divorced, and to say to people who don’t know that she cheated that it “just didn’t work out”, and to tell the people who do know about her infidelity that I also had begun to develop feelings for my current girlfriend (31f) while we were still married, in my ex wife’s words, “so her cheating doesn’t seem “as bad”. This is absolutely untrue, and even though I knew my current girlfriend while I was married, there were never any romantic feelings until about a year after we separated and divorce proceedings had begun.
This morning at my sons football game, my girlfriend, who has a son on the same team, was talking to another mother, and that mother made a “joke” about my girlfriend “snatching” me from my exwife. My girlfriend was confused and asked her to elaborate, and this woman said that my ex had insinuated to her that my girlfriend and I had begun dating a full year before we actually had, while I was still married, which my wife knows unequivocally isn’t true.
I want to keep a civil relationship for our kids sake, but I’m incredibly upset at her for not only suggesting I lie to cover up a mistake she made that destroyed our family, but also that she’s spinning the narrative that she only cheated because I was cheating too.
Is this enough to cut off all contact, with the exception of things that don’t directly have to do with our sons?