A woman shared how she found out that her husband has another son with his ex-girlfriend and that he abandoned them for her.
Here is the story:
“I just found out today that my husband has another son.
Long story short, my pregnancy was a bit of a fluke . I was not the smartest I guess, although I thought I knew everything at the time.
My husband (then boyfriend) said he was sterile and after we got tested for health we didn’t use condoms. I got pregnant pretty quickly.
But my boyfriend now husband was ecstatic. I didn’t even want to go through with it at first and he convinced me we could have a family. And we do.
He was so supportive. He’s the best dad to my kids. We have a happy marriage and he’s getting lots of promotions and is moving up in the world. I got to quit my job a few years ago and work part-time while taking care of our child.
He always talks about how much he loves our life. He’s the nicest husband I know. He is super involved with the kids. We were only together 6 months before I got pregnant and now we have been together 14 years.
I was telling the story of my surprise first pregnancy with my new mom group friends who talk candidly about everything wife and motherhood and one lady piped up “You believed that? Even though he had a whole baby with the girlfriend before you?”
I was taken aback. She told the whole story.
Apparently, my husband got the girlfriend before me pregnant. But he didn’t like her after a whole and he left. He said he didn’t want a baby. She decided the baby was better off and he’s now adopted by her new husband.
I asked my husband about this and it’s true. My kids have an older brother. My daughter will be attending the same high school next year.
My husband said he doesn’t care that he has another son, life with the ex wasn’t what he wanted. He always knew what he wanted and he didn’t want that. He said he would rather not know anything about it.
I am having a very hard time reconciling the man I thought I knew with this reality. I think it’s so wrong to do what he did. He was so nonchalant and cold. It’s not the fuzzy sweet person I know. I can’t understand his thinking on this. I just can’t. I’m having such a hard time.
I am going to try to let it go because it’s not my child, not my decision. But I feel weird. And like a participating villain or something. But what can I do?”