Ok so I am 35f and I am married to a 42m. We have friends that are also 42 and married. We will call them Ashley and Tommy.
We have known them 4 years. So I have known Tommy has a crush on me for a while because of his mannerisms. I just ignore it and avoid him.
But a few weeks ago he bumped into me and cupped one of my bewb in front of everybody at a party. But it was done in a way that looked accidental. It definitely wasn’t. There were a lot of people around so I didn’t blow up. But I gave him an evil death stare.
Later that night I told my husband. He said he couldn’t be sure what happened because he didn’t see it clearly but that if I said that’s what happened than he was happy to go have a “talk” with him.
I told him to not worry about it. That he was drunk and I mainly was concerned about my husband knowing.
Yesterday Tommy texted me about an upcoming event we had intended to all go to together. He said my husband wasn’t replying which to be fair, my husband is awful about replying during work hours.
But then Tommy kept trying to extend the conversation asking about life stuff. So I started withdrawing from it.
When out of the blue he texts me and says “so Im not going to lie I have the hots for you. I can’t stop thinking about you. I know you are lonely but if you want to come over I think we can both do each other a favor.”
I was disgusted honestly. I’m in no way attracted to him and what a dog. So I texted back “Tommy I am a happily married woman. Don’t ever text me again. If you need something you text my husband or have your wife text me. And if you ever do text me, I will show a screenshot of this conversation to both our spouses.”
He never replied.
So I feel like I shouldn’t tell my husband and friend because it destroys 2 families. Am I doing the right thing?