I slept with my sister in law and I don’t know what I’m going to do.
I’m constantly thinking about what I’m going to do. I became part of her support system after my brother’s death. Not just for her, but for my nephew as well.
I’ll admit that I did grow feelings for her as well. I still have strong feelings for her. She admitted it to me first. My marriage wasn’t/ isn’t in the best place either.
I liked the fact that I was needed. That I had someone tell me that they appreciate me. I haven’t heard that from my wife in a while. We eventually slept together.
The worst part is that we have to pretend that nothing ever happened. We still see each other considering our kids play with each other. I failed my brother, my wife, and her as well.
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Any betrayal is devastating, but when the betrayal comes from in-house; meaning home, family, and close friend(s), it hits differently.
That’s a pain that harbors and festers that can cause utter devastation and destruction. An affair is wrong, you know this, but often, for the couples that work towards surviving infidelity, those scenarios typically don’t involve an affair with a family member or relative.
If it ever comes to the surface, your wife will never be the woman you once knew her to be. She’ll never love you the same, and a piece of her will perish.
I don’t have personal experience, but i watched my bff go through this scenario with her soon-to-be-ex-husband and her brothers wife, and she became bitter, angry, and revenge filled. Their family is a shell of its former happy close self, and they all struggle trying to move beyond the affairs and remain in each other’s lives.
The saddest part is that the relationship between sister and brother is tarnished as they are both blaming each others spouses for their spouses betraying them. Their kids (close in age) don’t get to be cousins or remain close…its just an awful dynamic to witness now given their history.
If you’re remorseful, tell your wife and give her the power of choice to decide if she wants to forgive or not. But I’m saying to you, if she discovers it on her own, she will unleash wrath and fury upon you and SIL.