In a candid and reflective social media post, a Singaporean man has shed light on the multifaceted reasons behind couples choosing not to have children, challenging societal expectations and the prevailing narrative.
The post acknowledges the common notion that couples may engage in intimate activities in unconventional places due to living arrangements, emphasizing the need to move beyond stereotypes.
The author contends that societal pressure to have children is not only driven by the desire for privacy but also by the broader issue of Singaporeans feeling squeezed by societal expectations.
The author points out the lack of soundproofing in Housing and Development Board (HDB) flats, asserting that the discomfort of potential noise and the proximity of family members can affect the intimacy and comfort of couples. The post challenges the assumption that this discomfort is solely about intercourse, highlighting the emotional aspects and potential awkwardness of such situations.
What he said
Seriously? Look while we all know it is possible to make love under the bed because your parents are in the house, or at the staircase landings because your parents are in the house, or at hotel 81 because your parents are in the house, there are more reasons than just that, for couples not wanting to have kids.
This mentality of squeezing Singaporeans of everything has to stop. Firstly if you are making love right there’s going to be a lot of noise involve and HDB flats aren’t soundproof while one can ignore what your next door neighbour might be thinking it is pretty hard to “get hard” knowing your parents or partner’s parents are in the next door hearing every detail. In fact even if you do it quietly it is a little weird knowing your parents are just next door.
Secondly it really isn’t all about making love. Animals get stressed when they don’t have their own space and might not reproduce because of that. Many singaporeans are just too stressed to even think about starting a family.
It dose not just end there, she could sell her place and move in with me, or i could sell mine and move in with her. Even after that we might decided to start a family and sell both flats to buy a 3 or 4 room flat.