I 47m, still think about a gf from 30 years ago…
So I’m a married guy with two amazing kids & have been with my wife for over 20 years.
In my last year of school, I met this girl who absolutely knocked me off my feet. We had a whirlwind romance up until her father told us we weren’t allowed to see each other any more (he was a religious guy and wanted her to concentrate on her studies which I totally understood)
I remember I had this whole plan of how I would get my girl back, that was until this other girl who liked me, interfered and told her we had become an item (which is a lie).
Keep in mind this was 1993-94, there was no social media or any way to contact my ex gf to explain myself or anything. Her father forbid us to talk on the phone which made communicating really difficult. My mum even went to try and talk to my gf’s father to no avail. I was devastated.
Fast forward to 2022, I still think about her a lot. I can honestly say I’ve never felt love like we had back then, It was incredible.
I feel like such an a-hole at times when I find myself thinking about her, but I get this kind of warmth in remembering those days. It feels really good to open up & talk about it with you guys too.
Netizens’ comments
- It’s totally ok to think about it but never and I mean ever tell your wife. Go somewhere where you can be alone (for example fishing) and think about her all you want.
- Do you think it might just be wanting what you can’t have? Thinking is fine. Like I tell my hubby, you can read the menu but you can’t order!
- Don’t worry about it too much. I’d say this is likely to happen considering your memory of her and time spent with her was short lived and by description- amazing. Just remember that there is the possibility that had you two reconnected or stayed together, it might not have worked out. You may have discovered stuff about each other that changed your perspective on the relationship.