I’m an attached guy similar age range to OP in PICK UP CULTURE.
Unlike OP, I managed to land a successful match on a dating app and have since gone steady.
However, I was single like him once and I respect his bravery to keep at his own game. I was there in that former pain. I can relate and empathise.
Some of the comments are plain unrealistic and socially unreasonable in their expectations to OP.
The OP brought up a few good points regarding white-knighted and self-virtuous behaviour. It reeks so toxically online. Speaks volumes on how socially inhumane people are.
OP has already stated his stagnating experiences in social events, school activities and the like. People are shaped by their experiences. Who are you to question?
Most of you can’t seem to relate that he felt pushed over the edge with no other option or space to interact with the opposite gender. Many of you are so easy to dismiss him for being dangerous and creepy by seeking to try approaching / talking up girls in public places. I guess society has dismissed you badly in your real-lives and make you miserable?
Hypocritically, if the OP wrote a salty rant on how no ladies have ever liked him, why he’s single, and some misogyny, all of you would instead be slamming him for not putting himself out there and being a whiny spoilsport.
OP has never expressed he is sore on his fate. Yet you all still slam him for trying. And even calling him out for being sore. Don’t get personal if you can’t get your facts right.
For those who mentioned Pickup Artist wannabe, the lame comparison reflects on yourself. Out of touch from Dating Apps? Dating Apps and writing Intros is also some form of “Pick-Up” behaviour. Albeit online, not in real life.
The Internet also doesn’t owe you a duty of care for tailor-worthy content. Some (not all) of you launched very personal attack towards the OP on this. If you have an annoying issue regarding OP’s long confession, no TL;DR or that punctuation is misused. That’s your own darn problem. Stop projecting your own illiteracy that onto the OP. You chose to read the confession, at your own will.
To those who mocked him for spending too much time over-formulating and asking OP to get his ass off to go outside. Don’t forget that OP already spent his past 2 years outside, away from keyboard, working on himself. Only spend I presume 1-2 hours to write his confession? Whilst for you yourself, I also see your name pop up so frequently on the comments section in NUSWhispers? Who should be the one getting his ass off the keyboard and stop being the justice warrior?
As a former single myself, I can totally relate to why many other guys continue to remain Single. Other than the usual issues people mention, what people DO NOT MENTION is peer pressure by society to be socially perfect in decorum. Upon having a track record that you creep girls out, you get socially condemned.
You got to learn that the problem isn’t necessarily on you and creep isn’t a total reflective indicator of your failures.
I wouldn’t be surprised if this is why so many guys give up and accept their fate to be single. And for the mental health rating to be so badly affected. A fear of judgment if they tried their own way to practice and work on it.
Single guys, if you have male friends who are stumping your social growth, overly supervising your image towards girls and being unreasonably critical on how you express yourself towards women, I beg you to reconsider your toxic “friendship” aka “brotherhood”.
It may be better to stand strong alone in your own struggle. A healthy balance of dating apps whilst finding confidence in your own way might work just fine.