MIL won’t stop commenting on my weight
I have always struggled to gain weight and for most of my life I’ve been 45kg or under, until a year ago when I finally managed to start gaining a healthy amount of weight for the first time.
This was obviously a huge personal goal health wise and I was thrilled about it.
My partner mentioned it to my MIL in passing conversation and since, she has negatively commented on my weight every time I’ve seen her.
She tells me I need to “eat more” and when she sees me eating she makes comments about me not finishing meals (something I have struggled with in the past) and constant comments about my “tiny clothes”.
There have been a lot more but that’s the gist.
It makes me feel so infantilised. I’m so fed up of it and I don’t know what to say to her as it’s such a hard subject for me to talk about.
Netizens’ comments
Hard or not this may be a conversation you need to have. Is MIL the sort of person who’d think it was ok to tell a fat person to go eat a salad? If she is then there’s probably little point in a conversation but if she would be genuinely horrified by that then there may be a chance you can get through to her.
For a lot of people (especially those who struggle to lose weight) the concept of struggling to gain weight feels like a non-issue issue. Explain that struggles with weight are just that – struggles with weight and while the exact nature of the struggle may by different the struggle remains. If you can make her see that “eat a pie” is the same as “get a salad” and just as insensitive you may be able get her to stop making those sorts of comments.