A Singaporean girl has recently taken to Facebook to voice her unhappiness after going through an abusive childhood. It became so bad that her mother would challenge her to fight her.
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Never able to relate to people who have good relationships with their parents. How much they love their mum or dad. How we will appreciate our parents after becoming parents ourselves. etc
I am the total opposite.
I remember since young, my parents were pre-occupied with their problems. My mum has a nasty foul mouth to me and constantly criticising me, putting me down, trying to “win” me in everything and even called me “lousy” or “prostitute”. She often challenges me to hit her we are in arguments. 要打，来！(COME, FIGHT!) The thing I hate most about her is her gambling habits. She can pretend to such a kind and understanding person to outsiders but treat me like shit and dirt.
My dad was often bitter after losing his business to close relatives. They betrayed him and left him with very little. My dad ended up working long hours to put food on the table. He was constantly tired and angry. A little bit was enough to trigger him. Asking him for money for school matters was like asking him to eat poison.
I walked on eggshells growing up and forced myself to grow up asap. Never dared ask them for anything. Neither did they pay for my university fees.
Took me many years after I have a child to realise how toxic my parents were. I vowed the abuse and toxicity ends with me. While I do my best to keep my emotions in check, speak and think kindly to my child, I have unresolved anger inside. Because of my parents and their words, I felt unworthy all my life. I felt I need to do everything myself and be totally independent in all aspects in order to be loved/worth