My husband and I have been together for 4 years. We currently live together and we are expecting our first child in early April. I don’t have the best relationship with my parents due to traumatic drug-related things that happened in my childhood, so I’m SEVERELY in low contact with them. However, my husband has the absolute best relationship with his family. I always admired him for being so family-oriented.
I was talking with my husband last week about birth plans for the hospital. He mentioned how his mom & aunts invited themselves to be there. I told him I wasn’t comfortable with that, it was just him. He said he didn’t understand the big deal, so I told him once again, no, it’s just him, I don’t want to be too overwhelmed with his entire family there. He got upset, but I thought he understood.
Flash forward to yesterday. We were invited over for dinner at his mom’s place (we usually are every Friday) and things felt… Off. His aunts kept giving me the side-eye, his mom was unusually silent, and no one really seemed to acknowledge me. After dinner, I was pulled aside by his mother who called me a “rude and ungrateful person” because I’m a “druggie”.
They say they won’t acknowledge the grandchild cause the mother is a “druggie”. That was an unfortunate incident I had when I was a child and I have stayed clean for over 10 years. What do they want.
My husband can’t be bothered to defend me and I feel like going to give birth to the child alone without anyone of them by my side including my husband.
I have no idea what to do, BUt I want him in the room but I’m just really upset with this whole situation.
What should I do?