Mom abandoned family and we abandoned her back
When I (23m) was 18 I found out my mom was messaging with someone online. One day she decided to fly over there and meet him. She was supposed to stay for a week.
At first I thought that was awesome I got the whole house to myself for a week. But the one week turned into two weeks then three weeks then eventually a month. Everyone kept asking when she would be back but she never gave a definitive answer.
After about two months I get a call from her saying she was staying over there and that I was now in charge of the house which meant I had to pay all the bills.
I refused but she insisted I pay them since she was no longer living here. I told her well she needs to come back and do something with the house because it’s under her name and not my responsibility.
After that she hung up on me and wouldn’t answer my calls or text. Just in case she tried something I packed up and went to my dad’s house.
Well when bill time came she sent me all the links to payment sites but I ignored them. When she saw I didn’t pay them she called me screaming saying I’m irresponsible and I’ll get in trouble for not paying them.
I told her that wasn’t my responsibility especially since I’m living with dad now. She said she hopes I end up homeless then hung up.
She also tried to get other family members to pay the bills, she didn’t want to sell the house because she wanted somewhere to stay when she visits.
She gave up and came back to sell the house. In the time she was here we barely had any contact. And when she eventually moved back to her new boyfriend we contacted even less.
I only knew how her life was going because of social media. The family was devastated that she just abandoned us, it took some time but we were able to move on
It’s been five years since then and I recently got a message from my mom asking if her and her family can come stay with me.
I’m not the first one she asked though. She went to a couple others first but was rejected each time. Apparently she has no support system over there and needs help.
She’s a stay at home mom and her husband got fired. They are having trouble making ends meet and want to stay with someone until they get back on their feet.
I rejected her as well saying I have no room and also want nothing to d with her. That didn’t go over well and now she’s blasting the family on social media saying we are abandoning her in her time of need.
It’s ridiculous that she doesn’t see the irony in her own words. She’s text us nonstop saying how we have a duty as family to help. We even get texts from her new husband calling us horrible family members.
We have all blocked them since then. Two weeks have passed and things have been silent on her end.