Since young, my mum is SUPER DUPER bias towards my younger sis (my only sibling). Every time my mum will ALWAYS give in to my sis and will listen to her. What my sis wanted, my mum always says ok.
For my case, I was treated differently after my sis was born. I’ve asked my mum for simple stuff like “Can I stay over at my bf place over the week?”and her reply is “NO!”.
But my sis asked her the same question and she replied “Sure, my dear”.
There’s once, when I was showering, I overheard their conversation. They are talking behind my back. My mum: “Why is your sister behaving like that?”.
My mum’s mindset is too traditional. Recently, I’m getting married. My plan was to just sign the ROM paper and that’s it. Just keep it simple.
She insisted that she wanted to have those “traditional Chinese wedding” ritual. This time I gave in to her and I told her just a simple one will do.
She just kept quiet. The next day, she wanted to do all the “required” stuff (eg. Set date according to calendar, tea ceremony) for my wedding that I find that there serve no purpose. I told her there’s no need for all these.
Over the years, I was wondering if she is my blood related mum. I have my own thoughts and cannot keep following her instructions. This is not even fair to me.
How to persuade my mum to listen to me just once? Should I move out from her house? Please give some advice. TYIA