My [25F] future mother-in-law [55F] bought a white dress to wear our wedding
My fiancé [25M] and I are getting married in a few months and I was sent a photo from someone from his side of the family of the dress his mother is planning to wear to our wedding.
It’s a mid length, long sleeve, elegant dress that comes in several different colors but she chose the white one.
The thing is, me and his mother have gotten along very well up until this. She definitely knows the unspoken rule about wearing white to a wedding so I can’t fathom why she would choose a white dress to wear to our wedding.
I don’t even know what I should say to her or if I should say anything at all or just let her wear the dress and suck it up? Any advice would be appreciated.
Netizens’ comments
- Your fiance needs to have a conversation with his mother.
- Do NOT be the one who handles this. Unless they peesonally attack you (and sometimes even then), your fiance is responsible for wrangling his side of the family at all times. It should never be your job, just like making your side be respectful isn’t his job.
If your fiance can not make his mother respect your relationship, or at least hold his mother accountable, you have bigger problems than that dress. If he isn’t willing to, then you probably need to reconsider.
If you somehow get to marriage with this still being the case, don’t make an issue of it. Just photoshop john cena over her in all the photos. Or ask the photographers to crop her out and delete any photos where they can’t.
- Do NOT be the one who handles this. Unless they peesonally attack you (and sometimes even then), your fiance is responsible for wrangling his side of the family at all times. It should never be your job, just like making your side be respectful isn’t his job.
- Your fiancé should talk to his mom about this. Not you.
If he can’t face her and tell her she won’t be allowed to wear it, then seriously reconsider getting married right now. Is he going to stand up to when she complains about where you want to live or how often you come over or if she wants a key to your house or what you name your kids, etc.? - I would let her embarrass herself. It’s not like she’s going to steal the spotlight