Mother in-law not happy that I don’t work
Just seeking an advice from all married couples here.
I am currently living with my in laws and my husband. My husband is malaysian and I am Singaporean. Due to my liver disease, low blood sugar and unstable health, I can only work part time (2-3 days in SG), the rest of the days I am staying in Johor.
Lately my MIL have been starting to mind that i don’t have a full time job and only staying home to do housework. Earlier just a few mins ago, she said it quite nastily that I only know how to feed on my husband like a worm. She say I expect my husband to pay for everything in the house. I do give both in laws their allowance, on top of that I also have to give my parents in Singapore their allowance, while I am only earning like 700-800 per month. To be honest I do not have savings, because of giving allowance.
These days I wash my husband’s clothes and ironed them. My mil said I stole her job. The same thing happened last night when I cooked for my husband.
MIL have openly said that she prefers the other daughter in law, my husband’s brother’s wife. She said she is pregnant with her grandson and working full time 6 days earning RM2000. My husband and I have no plans to have children.
I will like to ask, so being sick and unhealthy is also my fault? There were times I fainted at work, and woke up either at KTPH or TTSH. I do not know how to find a full time job given a body like mine. I have also friends in Singapore whom mentioned I am just feeding on my husband, slack at home and do nothing.
Should I complain about my mil to my husband? I do not want my husband to get sandwiched btw him and his mum. My husband have plans to buy a house after chinese new year. The thoughts of my husband is he doesn’t want me to get a full time job, he only want me to be a housewife. He is doing quite well near to 5 digits per month.
Appreciate all advices given here.