Mum have not been working since giving birth. My dad has been asking her to work when we start poly, she refused to work even until now we are in our late 30s.
She’s healthy to work. She refuse to work and expect my dad to “maintain a her standard of living”, and pays for everything. Dad earns less than $3k.
Dad divorced her some years ago and yet she keep giving excuses not to work. She knows that her savings (which includes monthly allowance we give her as children) will eventually run out and and expect her children to pay 100% of her expenses and maintain her standard of living.
She spends money on necessary things. She already has an iPhone, yet she bought additional brand new iphone with monthly mobile line just to play games. She also buys new clothes that she either doesn’t or rarely wear.
We tried to help her to find jobs and suggest all methods to get her to work. But she simply refuse to work and think that there’s nothing that we can do except to give her $. She forces us to give into her demands for $, throw tantrum and scold us if we say no. She is becoming worse as her $ is becoming lesser.
Let’s say she uses the parent maintenance act, means we will be her ATM forever?
Any advise? Thank you.
Netizens’ comments
- I tink parents maintenance act got $ cap.
- Just give enough for living essentials. What can she even do to ‘force you to give’ to indulge her luxuries?
She wanna scold and throw tantrums let her lo. Has giving in to a child throwing tantrums ever worked to cultivate good behaviour?
Your nice ways of talking or encouraging her to earn her own money won’t work, it’s long past time to play hardball. - The parent maintenance act is based on subsistence living so the government doesn’t have to give her ComCare. She will probably get “awarded” less than what you’re currently giving her as an allowance.
Just set your own boundaries with a hard cap in monthly allowance and let her throw as many tantrums as she likes.