I recently took a trip with my best friend to relax.
We were out at a bar having some drinks and enjoying our time together. A man all of a sudden sat next to my friend and started a conversation with her. My friend seemed to enjoy the guy and started talking to him.
They were talking for like 10 minutes all while the guy was pretending I didn’t exist and wasn’t sitting with them. He didn’t even greet me and only interacted with my friend.
He kept flirting with her and giving her compliments while I had to pretend nothing was going on and sit there awkwardly.
At the end of their conversation, the guy invited my friend to a yacht party that he was apparently having not too far from where we were.
My friend asked if I could join them and what the dude did was disgusting. He straight up looked me up and down my body (still not having said a word to me) and straight up told my friend that she could only come.
I felt effing dehumanized like a piece of meat and just wanted to leave and go back to our hotel room. My friend then ‘asked’ me if it was ok if she went to the party for a few hours without me and told me she’ll meet up with me later.
I just told her to do what she wants and got up and went back to our hotel.
My friend didn’t return until 6 am the next morning. I cried my eyes out and the only thing I wanted to do was take the first flight home, but we still had a day left on our trip that I pretty much spent pretending nothing was wrong…
I already knew that my friend was considered more “conventionally” attractive but the fact that I was excluded purely because of the way I look hurt.
But the worst thing of all was the fact that my friend didn’t even have my back and dropped me like I was nothing. Another example of how women are still mainly judged for their beauty instead of who they actually are.