Anyone still meet up with ex-school friends?
At first, such meet-ups are nothing more than for comparisons of how one another are doing (maybe unintentional) under the pretext of ‘catch-up’.
It was good to know where one is standing relative to others. Then until a point, most people bo-chup and no one bothers for such sessions anymore.
Likely cos it seems like a waste of time and everyone became busy building their careers and/or families.
Now, after graduating for more than 10y, I realise that friends who continue to meet up with other old friends are mostly due to business dealings.
For eg, insurance matters, property dealings or other services like buying from friend’s business in fnb, catering or renovation, etc. It was through those reasons that the friendships still remain.
Anyone else also feel the same way as I do? That friendship maintenance is mainly due to business dealings. If it’s just ‘catch-up’, there seems to be nothing much to say.
And if there is no business matters, the friendships are almost no more. Glad to hear other perspectives.
Netizens’ comments
- Friendships are like plants, if you don’t give a damn about it for too long it will just die.
- I’ve been friends with one of my closest friends since I was 7. I can still tell you how I met her and we laugh about it all the time. We drifted apart in secondary school, but managed to still keep tabs on each other thanks to Facebook. We went to the same JC eventually and have been close since.
We went to each others’ graduations, I was her maid of honor at her wedding and just 2 days ago, she gave me a “World’s Best Aunt” T-shirt to reveal her pregnancy. I started bawling my eyes out because I still remember her 2-plaid hairstyle and bug-eyed stare when we first met. Some long-lasting friendships just hit different. - My closest friends are my pri & sec sch friends who have been with me probably over 15 years plus. We went to the same schools for both and we have this weekly “meeting” where we usually just hang out until wee hours talking about work, hobbies and joke about our time during school days
- I know someone who went on a trip with his sec sch friends at the ripe old age of 47 because it was sth they agreed on/dreamt about waaaay back in school :’)
- Um… no… I’m decently close to my friends and even though we don’t catch up much, when we do there’s a lot to talk about because we haven’t seen one another in so long. We’ve never talked business either.
- the way you talk about your “friends” is quite ridiculous as if you don’t want to meet up with them just to hang out then are they even your friends at all? you talk about them as if you’re rivals. while it may be normal to sort of compare your standings in life with them but that is definitely not the only point. if that’s your view in life on friends then you surely have not made any real friends in your school years