NETIZEN SAYS S’PORE IS SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST, EVERYONE SABO EACH OTHER TO GET AHEAD

Do Singaporeans feel sad?

So apparently due to our nature of being materialistic and being in the rat race all the time, I think some feelings like empty and sympathy are gone due to stepping over people to climb the corporate ladder.

My parents told me it’s a survival of the fittest and I have to step people over and not feel guilty about it.

Sabotage and betrayals are norm and speaking from my dad experience of how he used his best friend to get into particular job and sabotage him for taking the guy position.

And my mom have used some of the people who trusted in her to sabotage and increase her reputation by downplaying her close friends..

When my grandpa passed away, my parents and I didn’t shed a tear even tho I was pretty close to him coz I can’t feel any sadness or emotions related to it. I am prepared to abandon my friends anytime if it benefits me.

So is this normal Singaporean behaviour? Or just me? Do yall experience sadness before?

Netizens’ comments

1. No, it’s not. Your parents are f-ed up. But not crying when an old person dies is common. Because the death did not come as a surprise, the medical bills and levels of care needed were mounting, death was a relief and the expected last step.
2. your family is toxic. its not sinkie nature. its just your family.
3. how you treat others is often how you get treated. if you’re Machiavellian at work no one will trust you and there will be a limit to where you can go or what you can accomplish if you don’t have other people’s engagement. and if you’re an a-hole to your friends you’ll find that you have none when you’re older. and no, it’s not common. there are many decent Singaporeans.
4. What a f-ed up family.
5. I don’t think it’s normal . Your family seems to be very stunted in emotional maturity ? And your parents have unfortunately passed on their toxic traits to you.
   What you mentioned and described is not unheard of (that’s why we hear of toxic backstabbing colleagues and friends… is people like you guys lor, lol)
   But the truth is majority of people around you are NOT like this… as kiasu is our culture, as competitive as it is in SG, most parents still teach their kids to do the right thing. Most of us has normal, healthy, happy relationships and friendships, just like any other similar societies in the world.
   Cmon. I think it’s a good sign that you’re self aware and even asking this question here in the first place..
   OP you need therapy you guys sound f-ed up. There’s still light at the end of the tunnel. Seek help ba.