Job accused me of being too sensitive, I’m pissed
Im a manager in a small cafe. We got a new guy recently and he’s been nothing but trouble. He’s got a huge ego and is hostile and rude to me.
I put up with it for a month, then 2 days ago he got extremely snarky with me, full on yelled at me in front of a customer, then walked out to take a break without asking in the middle of a rush.
When I clocked out I texted my boss saying I’m having problems and asked to talk the next day.
Without evening asking me to clarify she lost her shit and sent an extreme text attacking this guy. She assumed she knew what the problem was (she was incorrect) and said that i accused him of things which I never said.
The guy said I was lying to undermine him and she then got mad at me. My relationship with him was already strained and this made me feel backed into a corner.
She then called me and said I am overly sensitive and that we are having a meeting all three of us the next day. She also asked the owner of the company to come.
I show up and we sit down and they all start digging into me. All three of them went off about how I’m sensitive and the guy is just used to old school kitchens.
At no point did they hold him accountable for yelling or walking out, I was 100% the bad guy. I’ve worked here a year and a half with a lot of difficult people and never raised a problem so I felt like this was unfair.
At this point I felt like the relationship couldn’t be mended, and I also felt pretty hurt that these people I’d worked hard for had all turned on me and wouldn’t hear me out.
I told them I won’t do it anymore and I’m going to start looking for other jobs. I promised to put my two weeks in once I found one and keep working hard until I left.
The whole situation has been so demoralizing though I’m not sure how I’m going to do it. My shift that day was extremely awkward and I wanted to walk out the whole time.
The only positive I see with how it all unfolded is that I feel completely assured that this is the right choice and these are not people I want to spend 40 hours a week around. I still feel hurt