am I in the wrong or justified?
Context: I’ve been giving my mum 1/6 of my $630 allowance each month but recently I’ve had second thoughts about giving it to her since I want to save enough money for my own expenditure AND i am planning to go for therapy sessions, but I don’t want to seem “unfilial”(?)
Idk how to go about talking to her about it as every time I brought up money issues that I had, she just kept demanding for it anyways.
I know it’s a norm in SG culture to give back to parents once u start “working” but now I can’t seem to part with my money as easily. Am I being stingy? Would really like to hear everyone’s thoughts on this.
- Bro explain to her that u need to save for ur future expenses once u ord trust me u wont land a job immediately and if u gonna go back to school u need to save for ur fees and expenses what not u include transport food everything else not even much left to save
- It’s not an SG culture thing. NS allowance is NOT SALARY. So I don’t see the need to give any.
- is she the one carrying the field pack? marching? cleaning the rifle? sleeping in the jungle? spending 5 days away from home every week?
if she can survive on her own with her own money and her own savings I see no reason as to why you have to give her a part of your allowance. especially since you want to use some of it for your own mental health. save some, spend some, be happy. keep the money. I hope she can see reason, or leave you alone at least.
- That is simply unreasonable. $630 is barely enough to cover our essential spending, not forgetting that we have to save up for future needs like pursuing higher education. You can try talking to her and explaining your situation.