I’m a 30 yo working adult, female, and financially independent since ~10 years ago. Yet my mom is still trying to control my life. I have a job that I find meaningful and pays well, yet my mom thinks i have not reached the level of achievements she expected and wanted me to do a PhD (any discipline; she only cares about the title anyway).
For context, I have a Master’s degree (funded by scholarship, didn’t spend my parents’ money). I have no interest in going into academia or research, or spending 5-6 years on another degree I neither need nor want, and offers no better job security in today’s economy.
My mom is not university educated, held an admin-type job for her entire career, and retired a few years ago. Her life advice is usually supported by her intrinsic feelings rather than facts.
When I told her my views, she got pretty nasty and even used this as a reason to object to my upcoming marriage to my long-time partner (“you haven’t reached the apex, hence too early to be dragged down by a family”).
Am I the wrong if I just proceed doing whatever I plan to do (get married and continue living my life without a PhD)?
Here are what netizens think:
You are adult enough to decide ur future. She may advice or say nasty things but one thing for sure, she dont and cant control ur life. So do what you need to do
The average human lifespan in Sg is around 83 years. You can decide if you want to continue being under her thumb for the next 53 years or pander to her every desire at the expense of your emotional well-being.
Nvr succumb to other’s expectations of you. Do what your heart says (not brain) always. Bcoz there will be one day (if you follow your parents’ wishes), that you will regret the things you didn’t do instead.Â