Having parents who are way too strict and overbearing does have its effects over time. But what are the negative effects which have risen because of it?
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For me, it was mainly that I need to apologise and constantly need to prove my worth to everybody because my worth is equal to someone else’s validation. And I normally need second or third opinions in anything I do because I feel like whatever I do is ‘wrong’ or ‘not proper’.
I don’t know if there’s something wrong with me but there just is okay.
People with overly protective parents, how does it affect you today?
Responses:
- Having to lie to them frequently or hide things from them. Can’t really share any problems with them either. I will think of solutions myself.
- Yea I keep my problems to myself. I realised 10 years ago I’m actually happier if I don’t tell them my things. If i tell them a negative thing I will be lectured that it’s my fault; if I tell them a positive thing or achievement they will dampen it.
- It’s actually typical narc behaviour. They want you to share, because your sharing gives them ammunition. They want you to overshare so you have no boundaries with them, then they can step all over you.
- I perpetually lie/not say the whole truth because I dont trust that they wont over react. My sis has no such issues though, seems like they got it right with her
- A serious lack of common sense and knowledge of basic everyday tasks and life skills even when I became a legal adult at age 21. It’s definitely had an impact on the way I bring up my kids. I always tell them it’s ok to make a mistake and that I’m happy to help them with things they find difficult or don’t know how to do – but they need to try to do it themselves first no matter what.