My 23-year-old girlfriend and I have been dating almost a year now, very happy relationship. She stays with me most nights. Cooks, cleans voluntarily, happy to be around and from what i’ve put together, a decent past before knowing her.
She is in law school, and starts her next semester in the coming weeks. We did not go to the same university, or know each other until after undergrad. But her law-school is near where I work/live.
The other day, we were texting while I was in the office and she was at home. She said that “Someone offered (her) $5 worth of a crypto currency for a textbook I’m selling lol what the…”. After a few messages, I jokingly asked “who’s crypto boy?” and my girlfriend only responded with “I (girlfriend) posted it on the law-school exchange Facebook page”, before she changed the topic a few mins later.
She came over to my place later that night and the textbook situation got brought up in conversation. Only after asking a few different times, it came out that my girlfriend knew/knows this guy who originally offered her the crypto $ for the textbook.
She stated that this guy went to the same University as her (now same law school), and also used to date one of her good female friends that I know for a short-time years ago. My GF has made it seem like she barely knows him just cause of her friend that dated him years ago, but alarm bells in my head already went off cause idk why she made him seem like a random dude until I had to ask multiple questions.
They’ve talked through FB messenger and even though they have a tentative deal in place for textbook, this guy keeps dragging on conversation with my GF about how money will be transfered/dates, when it has appeared to already have been established. Idk why he keeps dragging it on, or why my GF keeps answering his messages. They don’t seem to follow each other on social media, but found his Instagram and noticed my GF liked one of his pictures from 2-3 years ago.
Basically, I don’t think that my GF has done anything and obviously nothing wrong with settling selling that textbook. Just wondering if I should pay attention going forward that their convos keep dragging on and she lied about not knowing him previously before FB page post. Thanks!
Here are what netizens think:
- Tell her “At this point it seems like MY issue (insecurity) but I feel unconfutable with that correspondence that seems to be dragging out more than it SEEMS to need to and liking FB pics blah blah blah. I need some reassurance. “
- It’s ok to be vulnerable.
- Her reaction might tell you a lot. If she goes apeshit and resorts to labeling you controlling etc. …red flag.
- If she’s understanding and offers to expedite the transaction you may have a keeper.