How would you react if your dad didn’t attend your wedding?
I recently got married to my partner of 6 years and it was of course, the happiest day of my life being surrounded by close friends and family. However, my parents had divorced about 2 years prior and when I first told my dad about my wedding, his first response was to ask whether my mum will be there.
Obviously, my mum would be there because like any parent would, who wouldn’t want to see their daughter on the most important day of their lives?
However, my dad chose not to show up, citing that until now he is still very affected by the divorce and does not want to see nor be reminded of her. He still gave us a generous angpao but I thought that he would prioritise his daughter on her big day rather than to not show up on an important day.
The worst part was when I had to walk down the isle with my mum instead of my dad, leading to many of my friends and family asking where my dad was? It was so embarrassing having to tell them he doesn’t wish to come and have to see my mum because of the divorce.
Is right for me to be upset that my dad can’t be an adult to put his feelings aside and be there for me on my big day or does he have the right to be petty over the divorce?
Makes me wonder does he worry more about that and saving face or his own daughter on a day that matters the most to her.