Parents keep complaining about older siblings to me (31F).=
Me and my siblings (3 of us) give allowance to my parents that add up to $2.5k a month after we started working. My older siblings have been working for more than 15 years, some even 20. (Big age gap).
Sometimes my older siblings don’t give them allowance and doesn’t inform them. My parents keep complaining about this to me.
I personally think it’s ok for them to not want to give allowance but they should tell my parents upfront. They don’t though. Also, my parents can live comfortably and don’t actually need the money, although they’re retired.
I’ve told my parents before that i think it’s ok if they don’t give you, and they have given you allowance for more than 15-20years anyway. That’s a long time. They obviously don’t accept my opinion and think my older siblings are not being filial kids.
My parents will then text or call them every month to ask for allowance, then they will give them. If they don’t remind, most of the time my siblings don’t give.
I have been giving my parents allowance without fail, but on months where im tight, i inform them upfront about it and they will say ok.
Im very affected by the complaints from my parents about my siblings. It’s taking a toll on me. I also don’t think it’s right for them to complain and badmouth my older siblings to me.
It’s been almost 2 years and I’ve been listening to them everytime. Is there anything i can do?