Background: 24F grew up in a medium income Singapore household with 2 younger bros. Parents fell into bad debt and business and income was going down.
Didn’t want to go to Uni and rather take a gap year after poly (work for Uni money) but parents refused and forced me to go to Uni so I randomly chose a Uni in SG. One of the biggest things that cause me hatred towards my parents but they payed for full tuition.
For the past 2 years I have been working. 1st Year of work I offered to give them some money but they refused telling me to build my savings. Sadly, I didn’t save well.
2nd Year I started to save and moved to a more stable job but now my parents have been demanding me for money by guilt tripping me. I give them $300 a month but when my dad was out of a job I gave $500 for a few months.
On top of that my Bro 23M has the luxury of not working after poly and NS and has stayed home for 1YR playing games. He got into a car accident this year and badly damaged the rental car. But I have been paying his Monthly Insurance for it of $500 ?!?!?!?!?!?!
On top of this money to my mum. My parents will randomly say they need $300 urgently to pay bills and I have to give to them.
Because of this, so much debt has incurred for them to pay me back. But they can spend $30 on ice cream and grab food delivery for my bro who sits at home and plays games all day.
But the guilt trip me saying my dad doesn’t earn much when he was the one who chose the job and that they urgently need money…
I am trying to save money to get out of this toxic household and buy a hse with my BF but I barely have any money left…. This has caused me great stress. I also have GAD which my parents don’t know about because they don’t believe in mental health and I’m the eldest.
But recently my 23M bro was diagnosed with bipolar after being admitted to IMH so my parents have been quiet and put all this stress on me. It’s very difficult for me and I feel helpless.
No point talking to them because the guilt tripping starts. Help:(