What should i do?
I had a thing for this girl (let’s call her A) during my university days. She knows that I was into her, but we never got together because she just looked at me as a friend. Even then, I always tended to go above and beyond for her and was attracted to her personality and charisma. We often work on school projects together and hang out after classes, as we have mutual friends and live close to one another. This went on for years, but ultimately, my feelings for her faded after graduating with some residual left. We entered the workforce in a different industry and rarely spoke to one another again.
Today, I have been happily attached for more than a year, and I love my partner deeply, but we also went through the usual cycles of madly in love > arguments > reconciliation. Despite having no intentions to propose and get married soon, I do see her as a potential wife and the mother of my children. However, a few months ago, I made a fatal mistake. Me and A reconnected with our other university friends at a bar. While being intoxicated by alcohol, we shared a moment that brought back some residual feelings from the past. Soon we kissed, but we stopped as soon as we realised what we were doing was wrong. We left to join our friends but never spoke about it again. We even continued meeting with some of our other university friends after that day occasionally, but kept a distance because of the incident.
I know this is considered cheating, and I am not denying my fault here, but I also love my current partner too much to tell her the truth. I genuinely believe she is my soulmate and that we could potentially have a happy and blissful relationship. Will you tell your partner if this happened to you? Or will you keep quiet to protect the relationship. Would you rather know? Knowing that the relationship will never be the same again.