ppl around me often see me as a XMM because of my physique and my personality and it’s bugging me as I want to be taken more seriously and I’m not young anymore at all, so what can I do?
This has been bugging me a lot. People around me – from colleagues to friends, acquaintances and even ppl I’ve just met, all share the perception that my personality is like a XMM and I’m “cute”. And not just physically.
One time my boss casually mentioned to our group that I’m like the “small sister” of the group. And one time I met this girl, she’s much younger than me, and 30 mins into chatting she ardy commented that I seem like someone who’s nice to bully (not in a mean way more like poking fun)
I’m in late 20s, have a professional job, very petite, I like to dress casually most of the time and doesn’t carry around any luxury bags or stuffs.
Why this bugs me is because I feel like this implies they don’t really take me & my opinion as seriously and have the impression that I can be pushed around easily. I have to say that my personality is quite meek, can’t hide my emotion, I’m nice but a little bit awkward around ppl sometimes and am goofy and laugh a lot.
But I am totally independent, take care of myself well, and like to care and listen to others.
I don’t know what is it I do that make ppl perceive me like this. I don’t see friends or colleagues around me having the same issue so I can’t ask for their help.
So what should I do? Change my fashion? Be more aggressive and confrontational? Less nice and acts more aloof? Play more mind game?
Any input is really appreciated! 🙂