I’m a 2nd gen Singaporean but both my parents are Filipino.
There’s this pinoy from my lecture. Looks 7.5/10 a bit on the short side but average height for pinoy, character idk but he’s quite strange for Singapore standards..?
Back home it’s normal but we have cultural differences. The first time we met was during lecture. He sat beside me and greeted me hi in Tagalog and I was quite shocked because I don’t look pinoy but we became friends immediately
He always wears singlet, shorts and slippers to school which to me is ok because it’s comfortable especially in hot weather. We studied together for a few weeks and also go out shopping then I realised that he wears singlet and slippers everywhere. Like really everywhere. Even when we go to nicer place he will wear slippers. Also I noticed that he shaves his legs and armpit and when I ask him he said it’s cooling. One time he ask me go out and eat and he book a nice restaurant and I told him that there’s dress code. Smart casual I think. So means jeans and covered shoes. He showed up in singlet, jacket, shorts and slippers. The waitress at first don’t let us inside but he told her that it’s our anniversary so she let us in after talking to her manager.
I joked to him about it because it was a bit awkward but he laughed it off and said “maybe we should kiss when the waitress comes so she’ll think we’re together”. I am a bit uncomfortable with it but he’s always joking all the time so I don’t know if he’s serious.
Afterwards we went to MBS and walked along the river. At first I thought he see me as friend but he started talking about love and how he wants security so I interrupted him and told him that I’m in a relationship and my gf will not be happy if she finds out. He ask me where my gf and I said in the Philippines and he said “ok what, not like she’ll know” and I said to him “bro I’m not gay” and he said “we can try new things together” I was a bit scared because he’s quite big so I just told him again that I’m not a gay and he said ok. Afterwards I went home and he sent me a super long message about how he thinks I’m cute and he felt that I lie to him by leading him on and being nice to him. He also said that if I wanted to try new things with him just let him know and he’s always waiting for me. I don’t know how to respond because I’m definitely not cute I have a beard and I’m 2 heads taller than him so I just ghost him.
I haven’t replied to him in 1-2 weeks and sometimes I still see him in school but I pretend I didn’t see him and walk away idk how to react any advise? It’s my fault because I didn’t know he was gay at first and thought he was lonely and water friends but I never flirt with him or anything and I always talk to him about the girls I EC.