I’m pregnant and my husband has been sleeping with my mother.
Hello. I (26F) have found out my husband (30M) is cheating on me with my mother (52F). I honestly don’t know how to react.
I’m 4 months pregnant and I’m trying not to stress since it’s bad for the baby. I honestly had suspicions about my husband cheating.
When I announced my pregnancy, he seemed happy. Over the moon actually. He was kissing me and telling me how lucky he was to have me but now he changed.
About 2 weeks after my surprise announcement, he stopped hugging me and kissing me like usual. He stopped eating the meals I’d make for him after work and said he already ate some fast food or something.
I also noticed he had changed his lock screen which was a picture of us. Not sure if that meant anything to be honest.
I found out 3 days ago. I went through his phone while he was in the shower and found texts messages, videos, pictures. I’m sick to my stomach thinking about what I saw. I saw pictures of my mom in lingerie and he was replying with pictures of his genitals, saying he was so hard for her.
I even saw a message of regret. He had said that maybe they should stop since he didn’t want to hurt me but my mom said I wouldn’t get hurt as long as they kept it all a secret.
But what angered me the most was the message she sent a few days ago. I’ll quote it here so anyone reading this can get an idea of how serious their affair is and has been.
“I love you so much. More than you think. You’ve helped me through the passing of my beloved ex-husband and for that I truly thank you. I know it is hard for you to keep a secret like this, for me it is too. I love my daughter with all my heart but she will have to accept eventually that love is love and that the heart wants what it wants. Our hearts want each other. I thought that ever since my husband died, nobody would ever love me because i’m just an old woman but you have shown me to love my self and made me feel young and sexy again. let’s keep having fun and cherishing each other.”
I think it’s important to know my father passed away about 5 years ago from a stroke and my mother said she refused to get back into dating or romance because my father is her “forever love and only and only.”
It’s absolute crap, I’m crushed and it’s the fact that I know they hooked up after that message because that was the night he didn’t come home until 1 in the morning due to “work and paid overtime.”
I actually threw up after reading that message. I have screenshots of the messages and have sent the videos to myself.
Of course I deleted them on his phone so it looked like he never sent me anything. I’m numb. I’m confused. I’m hurt so bad. I cant even cry because I refuse to believe it.
My husband is at work. I’m sitting on the edge of my bed writing this. Any advice? Please. I’m desperate for just a little bit of anything really.
This baby in me is honestly the only thing preventing me from confrontation. I’m afraid that confronting them now will cause too much stress and anger and I want the best for my child.
At this point all I want to do is have my baby. Christmas is soon and I don’t want to ruin it for the family. I had also planned on announcing my pregnancy that day. Please help me.