My Parents Are Happy I Miscarried
I (24F) miscarried my beautiful baby about 6 months ago. He was unplanned and a product of a failed relationship.
The baby’s father (33M) and I tried to be careful, I took all my shots on time and I saw my gynaecologist often. My parents knew I was active in bed and although they weren’t happy about it, they were fine with it as long as I paid for my own birth control.
Early this year, I was so surprised when I found out I was five weeks pregnant. I told my parents immediately and they were disappointed in me for having a baby out of wedlock but eventually accepted that there was nothing they could do about the situation anyway.
I miscarried a few days after finding out I was pregnant. I felt like a failure. My baby’s father and I were absolutely devastated.
I went to my parents for solace as they experienced the loss of a baby too. All they said was that it was “meant to be” as I wasn’t married yet.
I’m gutted. It just sucks that they were secretly hoping for my baby to die. Or maybe they were relieved that it did. Idk.
Why did marriage matter? I just miss my baby. I just wish I were still pregnant. I wanted to meet my baby and hold him and tell him that we loved him. I’m sorry for rambling. I just don’t understand why people are happy my baby died.
Netizens’ comments
- We are sad for you.
As the nurse, I want to make sure that you know none of it was your fault. It was just supremely bad luck. You weren’t being punished, your parents are wrong for thinking the way they did, there’s nothing you could have done to prevent it, and it just wasn’t your fault.
I’m so very sorry that you have to go through this. There are support groups if you feel like you need that.
And I wish you a happy healthy pregnancy in the future if that is what you want. Take care of yourself. - I recently had a miscarriage as well, I was also a few days past five weeks along. I’m sorry you’re going through it too. Please feel hugged
- This is heartbreaking, I hope you are able to grieve and move on in peace, you still have a whole life ahead of you