A netizen shared how his girlfriend wants him to ask her for permission before going on a 2-day trip to Malacca with his colleague.
He said that he works shifts, and he spends 98% of his off days with her and seldom meet his own friends.
He said that he told her that he will be going to Malacca with 4 of his colleagues and use his 2 off days, and she got angry saying that he should’ve asked her first.
Here is what he said
Gf expects me to ask her for permission before going on holiday
Gf (30) and me (28) been tgth for a year now. I work shift and 98% of my off days I spend it w her. I seldom meet my outside friends and all because all busy w their own life.
Recently my work colleague jio me go malacca touring. Me and him nv go touring before and both eager to try. I agreed. Then reach home as usual vid call my gf. Then told her bout this exciting news.
I said, “next month we going try ride to malacca. Got total of 4 person for now. “
And she got so angry saying I should at least ask her first. I don’t understand. Like eg “Dear can I go ride bike to malacca w my 4 friends? Will use both of my 2 off days”
To me I feel I don’t need to ask her. I get it, she just wants me to ask as a form of courtesy. But some things I feel we should ask each other for permission and some things we don’t have the need to.
Like eg meet friend for dinner. This one no need ask permission. To me, just ride pass custom go malacca no need ask.
Who’s in the wrong here? Is there smth wrong w me? Or ?? Thanks.
Netizens’ comments
- You are 30….she is 3. Either find someone more mature or tell it to her straight. You can perhaps tell her in a nice way eg “Hey we weren’t planning anything on this date right as I am making plans to go to Malacca with my friends”. It’s a way of showing consideration but not asking for permission. If she still acts unreasonably then maybe time to reaccess the relationship as you don’t want to marry your mother.
- She’s your gf not your wife. If you don’t need your mom’s permission then u definitely don’t need her permission either.. You told her out of courtesy ok la.. What more she wants.
- By telling her, it’s already courtesy…if need ask permission…quickly leave the relationship….good luck