Why do guys tap out after they climax?
38F here. Serious question for the guys. Last night I hooked up with someone I’ve been out with a few times. When we’re out, he’s charming, attentive, and interested albeit a little self involved.
We had intercourse 3 times in 12 hours and he came every time. I did not. He essentially tapped out when he was done and called it quits.
I wasn’t bothered by the first times I didn’t get to finish myself because it was overall enjoyable and was broadly our first time together.
I know it can take a minute to sync up styles the first experience. In between sessions he was affectionate and cuddly and all that. We had a great time.
This morning, our 3rd time together, he tapped out after climaxing again and it annoyed me because…come on!
So I said something cute like you’re not gonna leave me hanging here are you? To which he responded, “What are we at a track meet?” and rolled over. 30 mins later I got up and left, not in a huff but definitely frustrated.
I don’t get it and I’m earnestly curious about what guys who do this are thinking? Like, how do you justify it?
If it was a one night stand, I wouldn’t take it personally, but it wasn’t and he has only shown interest in every single other area.
Also, I’ll just say, I’m good in bed haha and a generous partner. It does not take much to bring me to come manually or orally so it’s not like he tried and failed, if that makes sense.
I can certainly take care of myself, but…why? If we’re together and into each other?
- This is why you make the woman finish first, then you and if she goes again, great.
- It’s normal for guys to completely zone out just after climaxing but that shouldn’t mean he just gets up and leaves you. He should be enjoying the afterglow with you and get close to you.
for women it’s different. My partner jut keeps going and going. Only when she’s physically exhausted does she stop so I have to pace myself and coordinate our finishes.
- Guy here.
I’m not sure what type of person he is, but I try extra hard to understand a woman’s body before I go 0-3 on the O track.
Maybe the first time, he’s excited and let’s one loose early. Understandable. It’s happened to us all. But second time, third time? If it were me, I’d make damn sure she gets off. Like, I’d actually look forward to it, just to prove a point.