Sharing this to all ladies who are in the same situation as me. BF and I have been together for a couple of years and are going to collect the keys to our flat soon. That said, I have been feeling some regret about making it all the way here with this guy. From the outside, he is a pretty above average guy but deep down I am beginning to realise his selfishness or some would say stinginess?
He has a pretty stable career and earns above-average but whenever it comes to us, everything is about money. You might think prudence is good but there comes a point when prudence turns into self centeredness (if theres such a word?). For example, when it comes to eating out many places are deemed too expensive or not worth for him. I am not talking about high end restaurants but your usual outlets in the malls. Taking grab on very hot days is also “expensive”. In short, everything is expensive as long as he does not like it.
For things that he likes ( cameras, watches, food that he likes etc) then those things are ” worth it”. He acts like a beggar with me but has many watches close to the 5 digit range for EACH watch. The last straw came when he wanted to use COVID to skip having a decent wedding reception.
Of course, i have to agree to let him save face but deep down I am seriously questioning if i should just forgo the flat and spend the remaining years of my life with someone more normal. And yes, he also thinks wedding rings, wedding expenses and all that are useless. When budgeting for the upcoming renovation he only wants to spend minimally to the point where the home looks like a joke. My point is whenever he does not see meaning in something, it is a waste of money regardless of how others feel about it.
Before you guys bash me, let me tell you that he is not poor by any means at all which is why I feel like I am not asking for the moon here.
I understand the importance of spending within your means and saving money but I also have a life to live. Ladies, what will you do if you were me? Leave or stay ?-