A Singaporean guy has recently posted on how he feels inferior compared to his girlfriend as he is currently earning much lesser than her in terms of salary. He stated that he will face problems when they actually get married and he is currently at a loss.
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I’m feeling uncomfortable because my girlfriend is much more capable and earning more than me. What should I do?
I got together with my girlfriend in uni and we have been working for 3 years since we graduated. Back then, we were a simple couple who enjoyed the little things in life and it was sweet. When we graduated, we worked in different industries. I have never expected my girlfriend to be so career focused and capable at work.
Since then, she has already been promoted several times and is now earning more than 80% than me. If this continues, she may earn 2-3x or even more than me in the future. I know my own limitations and capability and I know I can never match up to her ability at work, nor do I want it to be an arms race when we compete with each other to see who earns more. I am also a simple and modest guy at work and I don’t think we need so much to lead a modest life if I were to get married.
I do not want to be that husband that depends on the wife to foot most of the house expenses. I got with her last time as I thought she was also a simple person but I could never have foreseen all these changes. Honestly, she did not do anything wrong too but asking her to slow down her career rise is not an option. What can I do about this or is this relationship over?