A Singaporean girl took to Facebook recently to voice her displeasure on how her boyfriend does not post her pictures on social media, thus she is currently thinking of breaking up with him.
Here is her full post.
Just been so irritated by my bf lately, really on the verge of breaking up with him.
Before meeting him I’ve always been very confident about myself, however now I keep having doubts that I don’t look good enough for him or weigh the right size or even wear the right clothes for him. We’ve been together for close to 3 years and till now no picture of me on his social media at all, I’m basically invisible. And yes I know some of you would say woww you so desperate for validation, but seriously how would you feel if your bf/gf posts pictures of their friends and not you at all. I’ve brought this issue up to him but he always brushes it off and says its no big deal, why can’t I be more confident of myself and just post my own pictures instead? Like wtf? Are we even in a relationship when I HAVE to tell you to post pictures of me but you don’t need anyone to tell you to post your friends? And the stupid thing is the pictures he post consists of his girl friends too. Honestly I wouldn’t even be mad if his pictures were just his guy friends, but wow this is really too much. Its like he’s embarrassed to let people know we’re together. And the more fked up thing is, he doesn’t let me post our pictures together too. Always saying he doesn’t look good, or why must post, or just cannot. I thought okay maybe its because I don’t look good on that day, so every fking day that I go out with him I change my style of clothes, I change my makeup, I lost 8kg for him to look slimmer, I even change my hair colour and my hairstyle to bangs instead (because the girls he hang out with have those airy bangs thing) BUT still no picture of me.
I’m so tired & frustrated. I get so jealous over other couples who are so open. I even cried to him a few times about this issue, asking why no picture of me till now. He just brushes it off say why am I always comparing our relationship to others or why am I so insecure. He knows he can make me happy by just posting that one picture. But no, he chooses not too. Even in our private life together, he hates taking pictures together, always pushing me away when I turn on the camera.
And yes, recently I read a few stories here about some girls facing the same issue. Totally understand how yall feel. It really sucks.
Seriously, to the guys out there who do this, WHY?? You all seriously not proud to show off your girl? Some of my friends say you all just LOVE the look of being single to girls. And if a girl hits on you, not your fault because she never ask if you got gf.
I guess I’m not the girl he is serious about and wants to settle with. I’m just the backup, I mean even his friends have the spotlight in his life, not even his own girlfriend. I’ll just wait for another couple months. If I’m still not there, I guess I know what to do.
Source: NUSWhispers