A Facebook user has shared her story about a friend of hers and how she make use for her friend wedding on NUSWhisper Facebook page.
According to her, the friend was her primary schoolmate and they haven’t been in contact for over 10 years. One day, her friend contacted her out of nowhere and stayed in contact. She was later invited to her wedding and was assigned to a table where there were 11 people.
The user felt offended as she felt like she was an extra. What worse was during the wedding her friend did not even care to entertain her and later passed her the bill from her wedding photographer expecting her to pay on her behalf.
In her post:
“This was pre-covid period. A primary school friend whom I had lost touch for more than 10 years suddenly contacted me and another pri school friend. She is a professional in healthcare (dr). She was about to get married and she was very nice to us. Meeting up and even celebrating birthdays with us. We also returned back the niceness and celebrated her birthday and treated her. She asked very early on if I was attending her wedding and I agreed. On her wedding day, she invited more than 30 tables and every table had max 10 people. But I was “slotted” in as the 11th person to a table of 10. The table had a total of 11 people. I gave her a red packet, more than the average for a fancy location in a 5-star hotel. I did all that even though I was jobless at that point and had to save up too. I also kept my early promise to attend her wedding because she asked early on. I did not back out the last min. My dad sent me to her wedding venue at the hotel, he also told me to give the full amount of red packet, even as I was hesitating as I was jobless.
She did not bother to catch up with me after the wedding or after her honeymoon, not give a call to chat like old times. She married well, her husband was also a medical doctor. They are both high earners. I dun understand why she had to treat me as if I was an extra at her wedding. During the wedding, the photographers issued her a bill and asked to settle. She did not settle it. Her sister passed the bill to my friend and I. So she meant for us to settle the bill “first”. I did not contribute, as I was already quite upset at being treated as the “11th” person. My other friend picked up the tab for her photographers. Take note, her OWN sister did not settle the bill. But her OWN sister passed us the tab. (I was not even her bridesmaid) After the wedding, she cut me off in her life. Never call or meet up, never update or even just a mini get together.
Then, my dad passed away. I told my so called pri school “friends”. When she heard about it, she whatsapped many hours later, to say that she cannot attend the funeral, as she had to take care of her child. The funeral was on a weekend. She had both her in laws and her own parents for childcare help. I did not expect her to spend hours, just a short 5 min visit. But she cut me off and ignored me. After the funeral almost 1.5 years later, she never called, or messaged to comfort me or say anything. I am upset that I was a fool to believe that we were childhood friends, and yet, am treated in this manner by her. Maybe because I was not rich like her, or my other friend. They both live on landed properties and their parents held office jobs. But I always put in a lot of hard work to excel academically well too in NUS, and treated my friends warmly like how i wish to be treated. only difference is, i seldom go with them to expensive cafes or what not. if I did, i paid my full share, never leeching on anyone, i also contributed for their birthdays and sometimes paid in full because others could not make it to a celebration, so i ended up paying the full tab for the birthday girl on their behalf. I don’t see where I have not “proven” myself in life or in friendship to “match” her. My dad’s passing was one of the lowest point of my life, and her behaviour did make me upset, along with a few other friends who snubbed me, even though my dad was always helping them or sending them home after outings with me. These *ssh*le are really scums. They all declined to attend the funeral. In good times, they visited my home many times, my parents would cook for them and treated them so well. During CNY, my parents also gave them red packets and sent them home at night.
On the other hand, there were “friends” whom I did not expect to turn up for the funeral, even though I had not been close to them. I am really grateful for these friends, even though we don’t talk or meet daily/frequently.
I have nothing else to say. The anger is still there, and I just needed an outlet to ramble. I hope this is not too offensive or anything. Thank you.“
