I’m Asian, been overseas for 4 years and recently got married with a white male. I believe our relationship was genuine, we connected well, he was my best friend , my other half.
As you can see English isn’t my first language as I grew up in a bilingual family like many Singaporeans. but I believe i’m not too bad at it. I don’t find myself struggling with expressing myself, my feelings so there’s no such thing as language barrier in our relationship.
Recently we just got in a fight, I got very emotional and angry so i couldn’t put it in words and he pulled ‘ speak English properly’ knowing he’s in the wrong. I think that was the most hurtful thing someone could ever say, especially to the mother of his child, a person who already did him a favour by speaking his language coming from another country.
He really crossed the line and made me question why he’s with me in the first place if thats all he cares about.
Here are what netizens think:
- First off, your writing is perfect and I’d honestly have no idea it wasn’t your first language. Secondly, he absolutely crossed a line. It was a cheap shot meant only to make you feel bad because he knew he was in the wrong. There’s a little rule that the moment a person criticizes you instead of the point, healthy communication ends. I don’t think it was for anything else but to hurt your feelings. If that’s the case, youre in a tough position.
- You should be able to disagree on something without the fear of what they’ll say to you. He’s broken the emotional trust that is crucial to a fulfilling relationship. He’s got some growing up he needs to do.