A Singaporean girl recently shared her past experience with her ex-boyfriend after realising that she pushed her boyfriend into the arms of his ex-girlfriend after encouraging him to accept a job offer in a company where his ex-girlfriend was working at. Her ex-boyfriend ending up cheating on her and she blamed herself for her decision.
Here is the full story.
I don’t know if anyone needed to hear this, but for those who have their heart broken by their ex because they cheated, don’t ever blame yourself for that. It’s not your fault.
Four years ago, I was in a long term relationship with my ex. He was sweet to me, caring and was always there to shower me with love and attention. I couldn’t ask for a better bf and naturally, I was so ready to build a future with him. One day, I found a really good job opportunity for my ex and told him to go for the job interview. Eventually, he got offered a really high pay (way higher than what his prev company offered), but the problem was that he found out that his ex gf was currently working in that company. He asked me if I would be fine with him taking that opportunity. Initially, I was a little bothered by it, but of course I couldn’t possibly tell him to drop such an amazing offer right? I mean, the past is the past, furthermore, I really do trust him so I told him to just go for it and not lose that opportunity. He was pretty reluctant to accept that offer at first, but I managed to convince him otherwise.
Long story short, I caught him cheating on me with his ex gf lol. I blamed myself for the longest time thinking that wow I was the one that sent him to his ex gf myself huh. Congratulations, I have played myself. The people around me were telling me that I deserved better, I need to move on, forget about him, and start afresh. But how could I? How could I move on when I keep faulting myself for everything that happened? It took me so long to recover from this and to be honest, even writing my story down now is still pretty painful for me…
So for those who needed to hear this, please don’t blame yourself for being cheated on. You are not responsible for their decision. They made that decision themselves knowing that they are jeopardising everything they have, and yet they still went through with it. Don’t try to justify their cheating by blaming it on you. It’s not worth it. If you are still struggling to get over it, please talk to someone, it’s okay to seek for help. It’s okay to feel like shit. I’ve been through that period of hell, and now, I’ve learned to love myself even more. I don’t need anyone to complete me, I am already complete. And so are you.