A Singaporean guy shared a post online to ask if any fellow Singaporean male out there faced the same issues as him on accommodation choices after marriage.
He shared that staying with his fiancee’s parents would be a better option for his fiancee and himself but he faced slight reservations from his parents because they are all for the tradition that the ‘wife should move in with the husband’s side instead.’
Here is what he shared
‘Guy here. Staying by ourselves/staying with my parents/staying with fiancee’s parents are all on the table for us after marriage, but staying with my future in-laws seems to be the option with the most practical benefits. Except that my parents have slight reservations due to the traditional notion that it is the daughter-in-law who is the one that is supposed to be marrying into the family and not the other way round.
Thankfully, they are still mostly supportive and won’t be fussy as long as we visit them often enough, but just curious if there are any other guys out there who encountered resistance when moving in with their in-laws.’
Replies from netizens
- I was already staying with my Mother-in-law (MIL) before I married my wife, as my Father-in-law passed away long ago. My family is quite open-minded, and my MIL is staying in a terrace also so it makes sense for me to move in.
Bought BTO and going to complete in Q2 2023 then my MIL gonna sell her terrace for retirement and move in with us.
An advice is to make sure you are comfortable with another person staying under the same roof. This will change your lifestyle and living habits as well because you have to consider them as part of your daily routine (e.g. buy food for them, bring them out, etc…)
- why would you ever voluntarily want to live with your in-laws? what are the “practical benefits”?
- Do whatever that is the most practical for you i.e. saving money/time on travel. It is an open society now your parents should be more open minded as well.
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