High chance MIL will create trouble during wedding
MIL demanded tables and pin jin which sums up to $10,000 after huili. This was after negotiating with her. She initially wanted a even higher amount.
Some parents either use the pin jin amount (left after hui li) or out of pocket to prepare jia zhuang for their daughter. Some parents even use the pin jin amount (left after hui li) for the couples’ wedding expenses or renovation.
Although MIL will be pocketing $10,000, she is very reluctant to give jia zhuang to her daughter and wants to give minimal during our wedding to show everyone her displeasure towards us because she didn’t get more than $10,000. She has no qualms about souring relationship or throwing her daughter’s face because of money.
We have already paid deposit for our banquet.
We are now in a difficult situation and seriously need some help and advice. What are our options? Which options will you choose if you’re in our situation?
Thank you.
Here are what netizens think:
- You can postpone the banquet first, then tell MIL there’s no banquet unless a mutual resolution is done. Chances are sure your MIL wants the banquet more than you.
- Then forfeit the deposit and cancel the banquet entirely. Stop being a doormat and stop letting her bully you. Stand up for yourself. And again, what is your fiancé’s stance on this?
- Who are you marrying? Mil?
- Don’t give her any money if you two as a couple decide not to. The banquet you can postpone or cancel if u want as mil did not book/pay deposit for it right?
- If u go ahead with the banquet you can have someone on your side collect all the envelopes and keep it safe for u. Personally, if mil is causing such problems I would delay wedding until she calms down or dies. Mil can decide if she want no grandchildren or grandchildren born out of wedlock. Or mil can deal with the shame of such old unmarried child. To be clear, there’s no shame in being single but mil types feel like there is. Same with the grandchildren stuff. That works whether u want kids or not.