A Singaporean guy recently posted on Facebook after his girlfriend ended a 4 year relationship with him after she cheated on him. He stated on how she was in serious debt but she still tried to make him settle his debt even after cheating on him which ended their relation.
Here is the full story.
I ended a 4yrs plus relationship (longest ever for me)with my ex-gf because she cheated on me. After the break up, she kinda expect me to help with her debt situation. Before the break up, I was the one working my ass off and finding ways to reduce her debt situation. She quitted her job right before covid19 lockdown, not planning for her future and how she should have enough savings before quitting. She just threw all her problems to me.
Months of me struggling, due to her not working for close to 6 months without income. In between I was so stressed up that my wrist was injured due to overworking. And all she cares other than finance, is her needs. I told her i needed to rest and recover, she said you can you can use other parts of the body. Everyday i am working my ass off and resting when i can to have my wrist recover in time while she is just doing nothing at home for months. All her meals are cooked by her retired parents and sometimes her mother is the one washing her clothes where she don’t even contribute to any household items. I was the one travelling to supermarket getting the food and all for her whole family especially during the lockdown. (I was staying with her and her family)
I feel sad for her old aged parents because I feel that they don’t deserve to continue feeding her abled daughter. And please, she is 30 this year, not handicapped and she has a bachelor degree!
And so she finally got a job as an advisor for wealth planning. Not an easy job, she knows. Yet she tries to do things easy way out, wants to succeed fast without even working hard enough. She has no credibility, not hardworking, inflexible in her work and especially her attitude, is not even positive, can’t handle stress. She just couldn’t excel yet i being a nice partner, i got my family member to be her client, me as her client and even my bff as her client. Who does that if I don’t love her enough to support her and trust her?
We started to argue a month before our break up. She then went on to dating app and all to find new people to talk to as she thinks i am not satisfying her enough. But bear in mind, i was still working my ass off, struggling to help reduce her debt situation so that her licence as advisor won’t be at risk. She has no fixed income so imagine the uncertainties I have to deal with every month from her without any assurance.
So yup, she found someone new to talk to. Even meet up while i was stressing with finance matter for her. And guess what? A week after i satisfy her, she went to sleep with that same person she met up with. Wow! Imagine how painful that is for me. Worse still, she even told me it wasn’t serious as the person she is seeing just ended a relationship a month ago. And of course, she chased me out of her house. And i found out subsequently that the person she is seeing, requested my ex gf not to be intimate with me and faster break up with me. Bear in mind, me and my ex gf haven’t even break up then. Someone she barely knows for a month, she listens. I was still trying to hold on and work things out with her.
My ex gf insisted that the person she is seeing isn’t the reason for our break up and that she wasn’t serious with that person but guess what? They are together now still. That person she is with now knows about her debt situation and told my exgf that she should learn to deal with it herself. Guess what? She came to look for me that i should continue helping her with her debt situation. Really? While she enjoying her rendezvous with that person. Wow, just wow right? I was stupid to even help her for a few weeks after the break up. Apparently, she keeps on eating good food and still go out knowing that her job is at stake and she has no income. Of course, that person she is seeing is paying for the food each time they went out. Worse still, she will ask her daddy for transport money when she goes out to meet friends or meet that person.
Did i mention she has a platonic bff who always pays for her when they go out? She even owes her platonic bff a few thousands dollars for 4-5 yrs and not a single cent has returned. Worse still, her bff will pay for their meals when they go out drink or/and eat over the years.. Do you all believe that this platonic bff of hers purely just treat my exgf as a friend? I dont think so. That guy just couldn’t admit he has feelings for my exgf. They know each other for two yrs and they become bff immediately. Again, wow!
I am glad my life now is much better without her. I am doing so much better on my own without worrying much for others. This is an experience i hope no one should come across. Before investing into a relationship, make sure that he/she is self sufficient, most importantly is make sure you love yourself more before putting your heart into another. Know yourself better and ensure communication is there all the time. Don’t set your expectation on your partner, set it for yourself instead. Don’t jump into another relationship when you haven’t let go or sort things properly from the previous one.
I hope by now, this exgf of mine has started to grow up a little and able to handle things better on her own rather than depending on others or finding easy way out. I wish her and that same person whom she cheated on me with best of luck. And to anyone who spends time reading my experience, please love yourself and don’t get stuck in a relationship that you know is toxic.