I just recently found out I’m pregnant, and while I was happy about it, my partner not as much so.
Around 3 months ago we had the talk to go off the pill and he was happy about it, but about 2 week before I found out I was pregnant, he expressed his concern about not being able to be there during the pregnancy and maybe even childbirth. He has said he wants to be there from start to finish.
But seeing as he’s from the UK and I’m from Singapore and we aren’t able to close the distance at earliest April-July next year, he could potentially miss a lot of it.
We have talked about having kids before and it’s something we both want, he just want to wait till we have closed the distance. I feel really upset that he waited this long to tell me he changed his mind when we were lowkey trying for months now (we meet at least once a month) and I’m scared it might affect our relationship if we go through with abortion as I’ve always wanted children, especially more now that I’m about to reach my 30s.
Have anyone been through anything similar? Any advice about how to proceed will be very appreciated.
Here are what netizens think:
- The horse has already left the barn, but what on earth were you thinking?
- I’m confused….. but you’ve already decided to start conceiving actively? What was the reasoning behind that?
- why cant you close the distance? seems like he wanted it and you mutually agreed for you to go off the pill. he should be stepping up now, and working to close it and be there to support you and his future child
- It sounds like it wasn’t thought through very well to start trying for a child when you’re in long distance and knowing you still have some time to wait before you can close it.