not wanting to give my wealthier sister the lion’s share of the inheritance?
Yesterday, my parents sat me (31 M), my two brothers (32M, 34M) and my sister (41 F) down to discuss their will.
My parents informed us that they want to split it five ways, my sister gets 2/5 while the three of us brothers get 1/5 each.
Their reasoning is that my sister “sacrificed” her childhood for our family so its only fair she gets compensated.
In our childhood, my father’s business partner screwed him over so there was a period where we were broke and in debt.
My parents had to work multiple jobs to keep us afloat, and my sister babysat us while our parents worked.
All she had to do was feed us and keep an eye on us. We were pretty calm kids so all we did was play games and do our homework. It probably wasn’t thrilling, but not exactly a tremendous hardship.
I complained to my parents along with my brothers that its insane they want to give my sister 2/5 of the inheritance over that, especially since she’s financially the best off out of all of us. She doesn’t have any kids and a dual income with her partner.
My parents said they’re disappointed in us, and said we need to reflect on ourselves. My sister didn’t say shit while my parents spoke, but texted us afterwards that she had zero intention of taking 2/5.
Netizens’ comments
- Even if she just stayed at home while you were there, she didn’t have teenage freedom and she made sacrifices and took on responsibilities. It doesn’t matter how affluent she is now, your parents are trying to pay her back for what they couldn’t pay her then.
- Not many parents are willing to acknowledge that they parentified a child. Your sister sacrificed her teenage years to help your parents take care of you. There may not have been any inheritance at all for you to quibble over, if not for her unpaid labor back then.
- First of all, you are not entitled to any of your parents’ money, they could have thrown it all into a river and that would have been fine. Second, yes, she did in fact make a huge sacrifice by basically becoming a third parent and babysitting you all the time. All the time you’ve spent playing? She could have been out with her friends, enjoying her childhood, and instead she was making sure her siblings were fed and out of trouble. You are terribly entitled.