You know that saying, “you can’t save someone who doesn’t want to be saved”? It is 100% true. I am officially done trying to play financial savior to grown-ass men who choose to ruin their own lives over digital women.
The “Bo Chye” Situation
I have this secondary school friend—let’s call him BBFA Bob. Bob earns a decent, average salary. Nothing ground-breaking, but definitely enough to live comfortably in Singapore, eat cai png with two fish, and still save for his future. But no. Every single month, he complains to our group chat that he is flat broke. “Wah bro, Singapore cost of living so high,” “GST rise again, cannot survive,” “Government taking all my money.”
At first, we all felt bad. We genuinely thought he was going through some family emergency or heavy medical bills. We even offered to treat him to meals and covered his share during gatherings.
Then, the truth came out.
Last week, he accidentally shared his screen on Discord while we were gaming. This idiot has spent thousands of dollars sending super chats, tier-3 subscriptions, and gifting subs to some TikTok and Twitch e-girls. He’s not even buying actual merchandise; he is literally paying just to hear a girl who doesn’t know he exists say, “Omg, thank you so much Bob99 for the whale! You’re so sweet!”
Wake Up Call? More Like Sleeping Pill.
When we called him out on it, he got super defensive. He started justifying it like it’s a legitimate charity.
“Bro, you don’t understand, she’s trying to make it as a full-time creator, she needs the support.”
Support your head lah! She is probably driving a Mercedes and going to Japan every two months using your money, while you are sitting in your room eating cup noodles and calculating if you can afford GrabFood. The irony is he recently asked to borrow $300 from me for “insurance premiums.” Thank goodness I didn’t give it to him, otherwise my hard-earned money would have flown straight into some influencer’s PayNow wallet.
Why We Need to Stop Pitying Them
This is why I say, some people genuinely do not deserve our help or empathy:
- Zero Accountability: They will blame the economy, the government, their job, or their parents before they admit they have a severe addiction to digital attention.
- Wasted Advice: You try to tell them to put money into CPF, buy a basic ETF like VOO, or at least keep it in a high-interest savings account. They look at you like you are speaking alien, then turn around and drop $100 on an OnlyFans PPV video.
- Enabling the Sickness: When we buy them meals or cover for them, we are just freeing up their cash flow so they can simp harder.
My New Philosophy
From today onwards, my policy is clear: Let them simp.
If they want to ji hong (eat wind/starve) and sleep on the floor because they cannot pay rent, let them. If they want to declare bankruptcy at 35 because they maxed out their credit cards on TikTok coins, let them. Do not offer a single cent, do not offer advice, and do not waste your breath.
You cannot fix stupidity. Let them learn the hard way when the bank comes knocking and the e-girl blocks them the second their credit card gets declined. Lan lan suck thump, they dug their own grave.