Excluded from inheritance?
So I’m the eldest son, I have 2 younger brothers. I’m married, they are not. So my parents are already old and they told me that I’m not inheriting the HDB flat since I already have my own HDB flat.
They don’t have any savings nor cpf since I’m the one giving the most allowance all these years. It hurts to know that at the end of it all, I get nothing.
It’s not because I’m greedy, I’m sad because I felt used and I’m disappointed. I don’t feel loved by my parents. I didn’t asked to be first born. As a first born, I take care of them the most including my younger siblings. I contributed the most and the longest. I have my own family too.
I have to take care of my wife and my retirement. Am I bad to feel lost and sad for not inheriting anything? Not only my parents, my wife’s parents also told her the same thing. Since she has a flat, she won’t be included in the will. I don’t know of any stories out there having this issue, maybe nobody’s parents done a will or something. But I’m just sharing with all of you.
I regretted a little, not to take care of myself more, and be a little more selfish to my parents and in-laws. Should I start being more selfish or should I pretend this is not hurting me and continue to give large allowances and presents? It’ll be very obvious if I do that.
What do you all think?
Here are what netizens think:
- It’s never easy to attain fairness as parents. In a positive way, they might feel that you are in a better situation than your siblings and less worry about you. And that’s what we hope to achieve as children, to not give our parent so much worries. Again, parents’ love is not always measured by how much inheritance they assign.
- In this world nothing is fair. What we think is fair may not be fair to others. Being the eldest does not mean we get the most love or money. Do what u think is right. I told my late parents the hse , money all belongs to you and you have the say. But if u choose to give it to your nieces or nephew I will be hurt because when u are down who cares and look after u. If u want to donate to charity or will it to your grandchildren I’m ok.
- I think your parents might not be good in phrasing their sentence. Every parents loves every single child that they have. From what u mentioned, I feel it’s cos u r very independent u can support on your own. You are trustworthy and they do not have to worry for u at all for your future and they know they can always rely on u. Whereby your younger brothers, they are not independent and they might not be as reliable as you. Maybe they are always constantly worrying abt them and one day they are gone, they do not have the $ to support themselves.