At 30 years old, I’ve been through a lot in my life already. I’ve gone from being a naive teenager to a wise adult, and I’ve learned a lot along the way.
One of the lessons that I’ve learned the most from is my three divorces.
When I was in my early twenties, I got married for the first time. I thought I was in love, and I was sure that I had found the person I was meant to spend the rest of my life with. We had a beautiful wedding and a wonderful honeymoon, and I was sure that I had made the right decision.
Unfortunately, things didn’t go as planned. We quickly began to realize that we weren’t compatible, and it wasn’t long before we decided to go our separate ways.
She forced me to propose to her because she is desperate to get married and end up the reason behind her being desperate is because she found out how much I earned.
It was a difficult time for me, and I was devastated. I felt like I had failed, and I was embarrassed that I had made such a bad decision.
But I learned an important lesson from that experience. I learned that marriage isn’t something that you should enter into lightly. I realized that it’s important to be sure that you’re compatible with the person you’re marrying before you make a commitment.
2nd Marriage in USA
A few years later, I decided to try again. I thought I had learned from my mistakes, and I was sure that this time, it would be different. I found another person who I met in work while I was in Miami. I thought I was in love with, and we got married in USA.
Unfortunately, this time was even worse than the first. We argued constantly, and it wasn’t long before we decided to go our separate ways. I was devastated all over again, and I was starting to feel like I would never find true love.
She was over-controlling and forbid me to leave my house even after I returned to Singapore.
But I learned an important lesson from this experience as well. I learned that it’s important to take the time to get to know someone before you commit. I realized that it’s not enough to just be in love with someone; you have to be compatible with them too.
Third and last
Finally, I decided to give it one more try. I met someone else and we got married. This time, I was sure that I had found the right person. We were compatible, and we had similar interests and values.
But, once again, things didn’t go as planned. We got divorced after just a few years, and I was devastated. I felt like I had failed once again, and I was beginning to think that I would never find true love.
She wanted to control my every movement, If I return home late by just around 10 mins from work, she will think I’m cheating.
Constantly check my phone when I was sleeping. But at the end of the day she was the one who cheated on me.
But this experience was different. This time, I didn’t feel like I had failed. Instead, I felt like I had learned an important lesson. I learned that it’s important to take the time to get to know someone before you commit, and it’s also important to make sure that you’re compatible with them.
Lesson learnt
I may not be married right now, but I’m in a much better place than I was before. I’m more aware of what I want in a partner, and I’m more confident in my ability to make good decisions. I’ve also learned to be more patient and understanding when it comes to relationships.
So, even though I’ve been through a lot, I’m grateful for all the lessons I’ve learned. I’m thankful for the experiences I’ve had, and I’m hopeful for the future.
I sworn to never get married again.