I’m a 45 yr old male, and I have two sons my biological son Adam 21 and my stepson John 18.
When Adam’s mother died 5 years ago. He entered into depression we both went to therapy and we both started communicating better. I ended up buying him a car as I thought he’ll need it,it’ll cheer him up, and I had enough savings at the time.
I met my new wife Jade 40 yr old, 3 years ago. We got married one year after dating.
Now, Jade wants me to buy John a new car. I told her that I don’t really see why he needs a car and that cars are waaaaayyyy too expensive this year thanks to the certificate of entitlement. Jane is mad at me. She asked me if I actually liked her son. I told ger that I see him as my own. She denied that saying that if that’s true I would’ve bought him a new car just like I bought Adam’s.
I’m not sure how to approach her. I see that the situation is very different now. Jade is a housewife. She can drive John to his school and the area has improved a lot we have a good public transport system.
Jade doesn’t want to engage with me until I buy John a new car. I’m not sure what to do. I have enough money for a car but it’ll leave us in a hard financial situation for quite some time.
The worse part, she is not working and has no savings.
I can tell she is trying very hard to make sure her stepson likes her but it does not mean I have to burn more money and make myself bankrupt. I might have the money to buy a car for Adam then, but it does not mean I have the money now.
Here are what netizens think:
- Honestly, after reading your post and comments, your wife sounds like a pretty poor partner. As others have said, I don’t see what you’re getting out of this relationship. Were you just really lonely? Her reaction is terrible, her refusal to work is unacceptable, and frankly, I think you’re screwed. I wouldn’t personally want to stay married to someone like that.
- Sounds like they moved extremely fast. Got married after only a year, it sounds like he doesn’t really know who she is. Now she’s showing her true colors. I hope OP wises up and divorces this woman because this is a HUGE red flag.
- o how was your wife supporting herself and her son before she married your wallet?
- This makes me uncomfortable. They don’t seem like their in a financial place to be a one-income family and yet she’s making this kind of demand. Where is the stepson’s bio? Does he pay child support? And stepson is a teenager, so it’s not like she’s home taking care of a baby all day (although I’m sure she has work to do in the home).